“Which half has more rights?”
: Your "sexism" was my Saturday night
This is a post I’ve wanted to write for a long time, but have kept putting off because I haven’t been sure exactly what I want to say (or how to say it). I’m still not sure, but I’m realising that this might be one of those topics I will never be sure about, and my feelings and thoughts will…
Funniest Moments: Sam Winchester
The reality is that fat people are often supported in hating their bodies, in starving themselves, in engaging in unsafe exercise, and in seeking out weight loss by any means necessary. A thin person who does these things is considered mentally ill. A fat person who does these things is redeemed by them. This is why our culture has no concept of a fat person who also has an eating disorder. If you’re fat, it’s not an eating disorder — it’s a lifestyle change.
Lesley Kinzel (via curvesahead)
I will always reblog this because it is so so important.
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I just want to nail this to every stable surface I can find. I cannot count the amount of times that I’ve seen fat folks being encouraged, cajoled, and even forced into behaviors that would be recognized as disordered eating/exercising patterns in thin folks.
Pretty much everything that’s done on shows like The Biggest Loser would be called out as pro-ana/pro-orthorexia in a thin person. Exercising past the point that it hurts, to the point where you’re throwing up, even injuring yourself? Berating yourself because you didn’t lose ENOUGH weight this week? Constantly talking about how fat is weakness and thinness will make everything better, about how you can’t stand to be your current weight anymore? Emphasis on weight as a sign of how much control, strength, and worth you have? Viewing food as bad, as a temptation to sin? Constant sharing and talking about tips on how to minimize food intake, how to lose weight?
That sounds exactly like every pro-ana/pro-mia blog I’ve ever seen. It’s also what fat people are told we need to be doing to ourselves until we’re thin.
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Ah, sexism (alternative title: conversations I have at work)
- Douche: How did you spell your name sorry?
- Me: *spells out somewhat uncommon name*
- Douche: Er, sorry?
- Me: *tries again a bit slower*
- Douche: Sorry, still didn't catch it.
- Me: *spells it out using phonetic alphabet*
- Douche: ......... how old are you?
- Me: Twenty-two?
- Douche: Why do you know phonetic alphabet?
- Me: Oh, my stepdad's a pilot!
- Douche: Oh, right. So a man taught it to you.
- Me: Er, no? I taught it to myself so I'd know who was calling on the radio based on the registration of their plane.
- Douche: *pause* Yes, so a man taught it to you.
- Me: No. I taught myself.
- Douche: But you just said your stepfather taught it to you!
- Me: *gives up*
There are the occasions that men—intellectual men, clever men, engaged men—insist on playing devil’s advocate, desirous of a debate on some aspect of feminist theory or reproductive rights or some other subject generally filed under the heading: Women’s Issues. These intellectual, clever, engaged men want to endlessly probe my argument for weaknesses, want to wrestle over details, want to argue just for fun—and they wonder, these intellectual, clever, engaged men, why my voice keeps raising and why my face is flushed and why, after an hour of fighting my corner, hot tears burn the corners of my eyes. Why do you have to take this stuff so personally? ask the intellectual, clever, and engaged men, who have never considered that the content of the abstract exercise that’s so much fun for them is the stuff of my life.
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Except you can’t show a topless woman on TV - and you can’t defibrillate a woman in a bra. So victims of heart attacks on TV are *always* male. Did you know that a woman having a heart attack is more likely to have back or jaw pain than chest or left arm pain? I didn’t - because I’ve never seen a woman having a heart attack. I’ve been trained in CPR and Advanced First Aid by the Red Cross over 15 times in my life, the videos and booklets always have a guy and say the same thing about clutching his chest and/or bicep.
And people laugh when I tell them women are still invisible in this world.
Friend Zone Sexism
oh my god whiney feminists with victim complexes think friend zone is a misogynistic term now
Because it is.
It is because it implies that the worst thing a woman can do to a man is deny him sexual access to her. It’s actually a choice and a preference based on *her* needs, not something she’s doing *to* you. Surprise, the world doesn’t revolve around you and people aren’t doing everything they’re doing just to affect you.
It’s also implying that being friends with women is awful or undesirable. It’s exactly the same thing as being friends with men, or for that matter with genderqueer or non-gendered people, either it works out because you are good at being friends with each other or it doesn’t. There’s nothing different about it, not even when the people you usually sleep with are women.
Don’t take it out on people when people you find sexy aren’t into having sex with you - that’s just exhausting and using up precious time that you could be spending with someone who actually wants to fuck you back. Making up terms for it is too much effort all by itself.
There’s also the amount of hidden pressure that then gets put on other guys that you tell about this “friend zone banishment, omg!!!” to find this person reprehensible and to not give her attention, even if that attention could be mutual, healthy, and maybe sexual, thereby wrecking things not just for women but for men you hang out with, not to mention yourself. Somewhere there’s another girl you’ll want to date whose friends talked behind her back about how cruel she is for “banishing” someone to this “friend zone”, who will now not be sure if she should trust you either - even if she does return the desire. She won’t be comfortable with you, and sex and dating with her won’t be as fun for either of you as it could be. It doesn’t matter if you don’t mean it that way, the effects are still there.
Complaining when anyone of any orientation doesn’t want to have sex with you or date you (whatever gender or orientation you yourself may be) creates situations where people can’t be honest with each other, or are afraid for their safety or sexual wellbeing, because they can’t protect themselves from unwanted advances or even express their own desires for something else without backlash. They can no longer trust you, and become afraid to trust others. That ruins the dating scene for *everyone*. So cut it out.
Hi, there.
I’m wearing a shirt that reads “Kill Me”.
If you saw me at a party or on the street would you promptly murder me?
What about if I had a few drinks? What if I was walking alone at night?
I’m guessing that you wouldn’t if you’re a sane individual.
The cops wouldn’t overlook your crime because of what I’m wearing because that’s silly. I wasn’t literally asking for you to kill me based on my choice of clothing. Who would take that defense seriously?My friends wouldn’t blame me for being murdered and my killer would be behind bars almost instantly.
So, why is it okay to rape someone because they’re wearing promiscuous clothes? Why does THEIR choice of clothing excuse THEIR attacker?
It doesn’t. You’re silly if you think otherwise.
The less guilt on the attacker. The more guilt on victim.
Stop. Victim. Blaming.Holy fuck. This guy gets it.
Yup. Spot on. I hate the suggestion that there’s some mysterious amount of flesh which once displays causes a man to lose control of his ability to not rape someone. What I find particularly disturbing about that idea is that it implies that men are constantly fighting the urge to rape. That men are naturally and instinctively rapists and that women covering themselves up is the only thing that can possibly keep their urges under control. That is just plain bullshit…if you’re a man and you ever find yourself struggling with the urge to rape then you need to seek help.
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This is so sad
Girls want to look like the models they see in magazines. But the models don’t even look like what we’re made to believe.
does this post utterly terrify anyone else?
well I’m terrified. these kind of posts just kill me
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